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Thirdly, what is there to be afraid of? Sure, marriages end. People make mistakes, get addicted to things, get hit on the head and become totally different people, or just die. Love demands everything. Marriage asks for your entire life. What is there to be afraid of? Sure, it’s all you’ve got—but if all you’ve got is a life where you have to hold love at arms length for fear of what will happen, what are you really giving up?